DH writes This has so many different types of resources available on such a broad range of topics. It seems to have something for everyone. The site was interesting and kept my attention.
I even anticipated reading the second article. I love the set up and the explanation of what Good Choices Good Life is about. Just finished the body image series I'm now trying to apply some of the tips in my life. MJ said this about the Managing Family Conflict article So many people we've visited with need to use these skills!
Life could be much happier if conflicts weren't allowed to escalate to a point where they can't be resolved! His humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he intended it to be. James M. And finally, you can take action, you can take whatever action you want based on what it is that you focus on. So, what I want you to do is become conscious of this, become conscious of the fact that you can focus on whatever you want, you can give whatever meaning you want to it and you can in fact, take whatever action you want.
And when you do this, your gonna see just how incredibly empowering it is to have this thing inside of you where you literally get to control your thoughts. Say you put something in front of me two feet high and you said jump over it. I know I can easily clear two feet. So many people in life set their goals so low that they can easily clear them.
And that is not the kind of life I wanna have. So, I fail all the freaking time, I fail in my businesses , in my relationships, in all things, but you know what? Giving that focus there and having that kind of a meaning attached to it, allows me to take incredibly empowering actions, actions that propel me forward. So now, take that same thing. Think about, what if you could change the focus just slightly, you could skew your angle just a little bit so you can look at the different perspectives of it.
I can tell you, two years ago I went through the most horrific experience of my life where my face is literally bashed in, I have to have facial reconstructive surgery, one of the worst experiences a human being can possibly go through.
But you know what was awesome about it? And see that was a beautiful thing, so yes even the worst things in the world can have some incredibly positive sides to it.
Race-goers, for example, tend to consider each race as an individual betting opportunity, until the end of the day, when they see the final race as a chance to make up for their losses throughout the day.
That explains the finding that punters are most likely to bet on an outsider in the final race. All were susceptible to this bias, although some far more so than others. De Martino was interested to find that people who were least susceptible had just as much activity in their amygdala. They were better able to suppress this initial emotional response, however, by drawing into play another part of the brain called the orbital and medial prefrontal cortex, which has strong connections to both the amygdala and parts of the brain involved in rational thought.
De Martino notes that people with damage to this brain region tend to be more impulsive. Does that mean we can learn to recognise framing effects and ignore them? You may think of yourself as a single-minded individual and not at all the kind of person to let others influence you, but the fact is that no one is immune to social pressure.
Countless experiments have revealed that even the most normal, well-adjusted people can be swayed by figures of authority and their peers to make terrible decisions New Scientist , 14 April, p In one classic study, Stanley Milgram of Yale University persuaded volunteers to administer electric shocks to someone behind a screen.
In , a similar deference to authority played a part in the death of 47 people, when a plane crashed into a motorway just short of East Midlands airport in the UK. One of the engines had caught fire shortly after take-off and the captain shut down the wrong one.
A member of the cabin crew realised the error but decided not to question his authority. The power of peer pressure can also lead to bad choices both inside and outside the lab. In , an experiment at Stanford University in California famously had to be stopped when a group of ordinary students who had been assigned to act as prison guards started mentally abusing another group acting as prisoners. Since then studies have shown that groups of like-minded individuals tend to talk themselves into extreme positions, and that groups of peers are more likely to choose risky options than people acting alone.
These effects help explain all sorts of choices we might think are unwise, from the dangerous antics of gangs of teenage boys to the radicalism of some animal-rights activists and cult members. How can you avoid the malign influence of social pressure? First, if you suspect you are making a choice because you think it is what your boss would want, think again. If you are a member of a group or committee, never assume that the group knows best, and if you find everyone agreeing, play the contrarian.
Finally, beware situations in which you feel you have little individual responsibility — that is when you are most likely to make irresponsible choices. Although there is no doubt that social pressure can adversely affect our judgement, there are occasions when it can be harnessed as a force for good. In a recent experiment researchers led by Robert Cialdini of Arizona State University in Tempe looked at ways to promote environmentally friendly choices.
They placed cards in hotel rooms encouraging guests to reuse their towels either out of respect for the environment, for the sake of future generations, or because the majority of guests did so. Peer pressure turned out to be 30 per cent more effective than the other motivators. You probably think that more choice is better than less — Starbucks certainly does — but consider these findings. People offered too many alternative ways to invest for their retirement become less likely to invest at all; and people get more pleasure from choosing a chocolate from a selection of five than when they pick the same sweet from a selection of These are two of the discoveries made by psychologist Sheena Iyengar from Columbia University, New York, who studies the paradox of choice — the idea that while we think more choice is best, often less is more.
The problem is that greater choice usually comes at a price. In addition, more choice also increases the chances of your making a mistake, so you can end up feeling less satisfied with your choice because of a niggling fear that you have missed a better opportunity. The paradox of choice applies to us all, but it hits some people harder than others.
This strategy can work well when choice is limited, but flounders when things become too complex. Psychologists believe this is the way most of us choose a romantic partner from among the millions of possible dates.
When he investigated maximising and satisficing strategies among college leavers entering the job market, he found that although maximisers ended up in jobs with an average starting salary 20 per cent higher than satisficers, they were actually less satisfied.
So instead of exhaustively trawling through the websites and catalogues in search of your ideal digital camera or garden barbecue, try asking a friend if they are happy with theirs. If they are, it will probably do for you too, says Schwartz. Even in situations when a choice seems too important to simply satisfice, you should try to limit the number of options you consider. We tend to believe that we will always be happier being in control than having someone else choose for us.
Yet sometimes, no matter what the outcome of a decision, the actual process of making it can leave us feeling dissatisfied. Then it may be better to relinquish control. First they gave volunteers a list of four items, each of which was described by four attributes, and asked them to choose one. How do I know if I am making the right decision in life? Why do I always take wrong decisions? How do you make a difficult decision?
Is it good to be decisive?
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